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I've devoted 38 years to helping men and women learn to express their wants and needs with integrity and honesty, and to recognize and avoid the damaging ploys of intimidation and seduction.

Learn The Art of Loving!
Based on Dr. Pat Allen's WANT^® Training For Effective Living

What you learned in "The Secret" is only Half of the Secret — There is an even more Fundamental Scientific Principal to Getting What You Want In a Sexual Relationship:

• Masculine Energy gets what it wants in life by asking for what it wants...but...

• Feminine Energy gets it by saying "no" to what it doesn't want.

Honest communication is essential to the health of any intimate relationship. In her seminars and workshops, Dr. Pat Allen teaches the secrets to a satisfying and rewarding sexual relationship by applying the principles developed in her system of WANT^® Training for Effective Living, a unique and trademarked system for personal growth and success in life through the use of authentic communication techniques. Dr. Pat Allen's groundbreaking principles of Androgynous Semantic Realignment (ASR)^®, a cognitive behavioral modification technique, will enhance your communication by eliminating your negative language habits that lead to misunderstandings and emotional turmoil.

Do you find yourself often reacting emotionally — getting tangled in misunderstandings, arguments, physical distress? Do you have stressful lintereactions with loved ones where you can't understand what's happening, why things keep going wrong? Do you spend hours berating yourself afterwards for things you said in the heat of confrontation? Do your romantic relationships keep ending....and ending badly? By employing Dr. Pat Allen's principles of ASR, you will learn the five simple, basic tools of authentic communication and how to use them:

    • To get what you want out of life and your relationships
    • To communicate lovingly to the people you love, and to everyone else
    • To confront men and women in a respectful-cherishing way
    • To achieve fundamental self-esteem and restore good physical and mental health

And Pat gives you her promise that, "You can drive yourself sane using the same tools used to drive us crazy every day... words."

Dr. Pat Allen Teaches in Person Weekly

Pat appears Live and In-Person for weekly Therapeutic Theater on Mondays in Los Angeles and Wednesdays in Newport Beach, Calif.

Monday Nights with Dr. Pat Allen, in West Los Angeles. Live, weekly on stage, Dr. Pat Allen explains the principles she set forth in her bestsellling book Getting To "I Do" and then answers any and all questions on the pitfalls of successful sexual relationships.

"...Using a blend of humor and outrageousness to cut through the psychobabble, Dr. Pat Allen irreverently fields audience questions about love, sex and relating.
And they get an earful," —Los Angeles Magazine.

Pat also conducts a weekly workshop and group therapy in relationships session with co-host Catherine O'Brien, MFT in Orange County for a lively evening of self-discovery for singles and couples.

To increase her outreach Pat has founded the WANT Institute, Educators of Effective Communication Strategies where she teaches intensive courses in communication and relationships and Transactional Analysis annually. The Institute offers Certified Training Classes exploring TA and Pat's trademarked theories of Androgynous Semantic Realignment (ASR)^® for Clinicians, Therapists, WANT^® Training Educators and laymen. The curriculum offers a sophisticated educational journey at the cutting edge of Evidence-Backed Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Coaching and is a powerful (and potent) education series about how to get your emotions and life goals in order, how to restore your relationships and create intimacy in your life.

For complete information about classes at the Institute and at other venues sponsored by the Institute contact Executive Director Jim Hallowes at 310-390-4767 or visit the WANT Institute website:

In addition to classes, the Institute also makes available audio and video recordings of all of Pat's appearances for those living outside Southern California or otherwise unable to attend. For more information visit the WANT Institute iStore.

PUT PAT'S PRINCIPLES TO WORK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS TODAY!
Dr. Pat Allen's Teachings Are Also Now Available as
Books, Audio Lectures, Workshop Courses and Video Seminars

The Dr. Pat Allen WANT Institute offers training courses in communication skills, including "Lifetime of Love" for better couples' communication, WANT Training for Effective Living, "Watch Your Mouth" for Business Leadership Communication, and a host of educational materials to help you improve your emotional life and personal success. These workshops and training sessions are available on audio CD series, video recordings on DVD, streaming internet sessions, and in-person classes at the WANT Institute in Newport Beach, California. Click the banner below to visit the WANT Institute iStore where all these materials are available for your investment in a better, more productive and happier life.

Make One of Your New Year's Resolutions
To Join the New Dr. Pat Allen Teleseminar in 2012!

Pat's been really busy the past few weeks giving seminars and making an appearance at the Wilson House in Vermont, and starting in January she'll again be teaching at the WANT Institute, but she has been able to make time available to resume her popular TeleSeminar series.

Starting January 9, even if you live outside the Southern California area you'll be able to discuss your issues and receive counsel directly from Pat on these live and interactive conference telephone calls. It's costs a fraction of what a fullblown session would cost at her office, and you gain even more through the interaction of the other participants on the call.

These weekly therapeutic sessions will be Mondays from 4 to 5 pm (Pacific Time) and all the calls are recorded, so you can dial-in later in the week and replay everything as often as you need to be sure you understand exactly what advice Pat is offering. For more information and to sign-up, call Jim Hallowes now at 310-390-4767 or email Jim@DrPatAllen.com and get the dial-in number and your personal access code. Sessions can be purchased individually, or take advantage of the series discount rate.

But remember that because these are telephone sessions, the number of callers is limited so reserve your spot for the Dr. Pat Allen "Weekly Live and Interactive Tele-Seminars" right away before the hectic holidays come rushing in!

Pat Wraps Filming a Very Special Episode of
"The Millionaire Matchmaker"

In the season finale episode of "The Millionaire Matchmaker" which has now aired, Pat is called in as part of an allstar A-Team of Advisors to help the Matchmaker herself, Patti Stanger, re-enter the dating scene.

You may be able to catch the episode because Bravo replays each episode several times, but if you want to see the setup Bravo has a short video clip on their website in which Pat joins up with her fellow relationship experts in giving Patti pointers on how to best present herself to prospective suitors. And you know Patti: when she seeks advice, she brings in only the best.

So in this situation she decides to use her own business acumen to help her in her quest to find True Love. She'll have to let go of "Businesswoman Patti" and become "Dating Patti" if this is ever going to work. Can she?

We're not going to spoil any surprises, but the episode is titled "Patti Meets Her Match" and you can be assured that Dr. Pat Allen does her relationship and communication magic once again in this very delicate situation!

Have You Put an Exciting Alaska Cruise on Your "Bucket List" Yet?

If the Mayans got it right 2012 will be the final year you'll have an opportunity to visit the fantastic northern wonderland of Alaska. But even if the world doesn't end, this may be one of the last times Pat will be holding her 7-day "Art of Relationships" Seminar at Sea along the Alaskan coastline. So plan now to join her in June on this voyage to the last American frontier, aboard the luxurious Star Princess, a floating palace offering world-class accommodations including spas, casinos, nightly entertainment, live theatre, four crystal-clear pools featuring Movies Under the Stars, along with a gourmet's delight of both formal and casual dining available around the clock. Or have room service bring bounty to your Ocean View Double Stateroom and enjoy it with your significant other on your private seaside balcony.

During the cruise, Pat will be holding three days of full sessions of her world-famous communications and relationship workshops, interspersed with special events and you can even arrange a private session with Pat. And there will be excursions and sightseeing galore ashore at every port of call.

To book your reservation contact our travel agents Blanca (BlancaE@willetttravel.com) or Pat (PatA@willetttravel.com), or give them a call at 818-782-0676 (800-994-5538 outside California) to get full information about this once-in-a-lifetime package from Willett Travel.

You can also see a gallery of photographs of the elegant accommodations aboard the Star Princess and a complete video walk-through of the ship by visiting Princess Cruises.

Remember, the glaciers are melting fast these days! Before global warming reduces the rugged natural beauty of the Alaska coastline into a knockoff of Palm Springs, make your plans today to see this northern wonderland, watch the whales cavorting at sea and have a thrilling summer vacation in one of the last unspoiled environments in the world.

And get the bonus of spending a week with Dr. Pat Allen, learning from a communications and self-development master how you can discover true intimacy and strengthen and deepen every personal relationship in your life.

BOOK SOON! PRICES ARE GOING UP IN 2012

Wednesday Night Group Experience in the
"Art of Communication" — Weekly in Newport Beach

Dr. Pat Allen's weekly group workshop for singles and couples, hosted by Pat and Certified ASR Coach and WANT^® Institute graduate Catherine O'Brien, MFT. Wednesdays at Pat's office at 3355 Via Lido, Suite 205, in Newport Beach from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m.

Using the principles of Pat's WANT^® Training, Pat and Catherine demonstrate how to use words as tools to get what you want, and to say "No!" to what you don't want in life, and how to communicate with people you care about in a respectful and cherishing way. This is a great opportunity for one-on-one interaction with two very knowledgeable therapists, and get your personal questions answered in a warm and supportive atmosphere. $15 admission at the door. All participants can also purchase an audio CD recording of the entire evening session so they can review their work. More information....

Dr. Pat Allen Helped Judith Regan
in Another Stint on "The Millionaire Matchmaker"

Pat was in New York late last year where she taped an earlier appearance as a semiregular on Bravo TV's hit series "The Millionaire Matchmaker" as relationship and communication consultant to Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger. This time Patti brought in Pat to help with her newest client, the well-known editor, author and talk-show host Judith Regan, who enlisted Patti's help to figure out exactly what type of "True Love" relationship she is really looking for.

If you want to see how Pat authors a romantic happy ending look for the episode titled "Looking and Queening" which first aired December 14. There were several repeat screenings as well as Pat's segment being available on Hulu.com for those of you with internet broadband.

Catch Dr. Pat Allen on "The D-Spot"

Pat was recently interviewed by Kelly Sullivan Walden on Kelly's BlogTalkRadio show on The Awakening Zone network <www.AwakeningZone.com>. Kelly is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and author of the bestselling book, I Had the Strangest Dream...the Dreamer's Dictrionary for the 21st Century, and since we know Pat is a Jungian dream interpreter this was one mighty interesting hour, with Pat describing the symbolic dream that set her on the path to finding her own femininity.

Kelly's weekly show, The D-Spot, is a fascinating series that explores the nexus of nighttime dreams, daytime desires and destiny, and Kelly has also made frequent appearances on FOX, NBC, CBS and ABC news and in magazines including Cosmopolitan, Elle, Bride, Seveneen, Woman's World and US Weekly. Her show was archived on the BlogTalkRadio website so you can listen online or download it to your favorite mobile device.

For more information and to connect to BlogTalkRadio, go to The Awakening Zone or visit Kelly's website SpotYourDSpot.com.

Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger Agrees With Dr. Pat Allen:
You Can Be Married Within A Year!

Pat is an enthusiastic participant in a widescreen DVD presentation "Married In A Year" by Patti Stanger, the CEO of the Millionaire's Club and star of the hit Bravo TV series "The Millionaire Matchmaker." In this 73-minute feature produced before a live audience, Patti reveals her secrets for successfully matching thousands of happy couples, including her Ten Commandments of Dating, how to put yourself through Dating Detox, how to spot the Red Flags of a Bad Relationship, and how to Negotiate for a Wedding Ring and Seal the Deal.

And to help her explain these principles, she has staged some dramatic set pieces, and showcases special guest Dr. Pat Allen giving some keen pointers on Getting To "I Do." Plus, Stanger also buttonholes some frank-talking men who 'fess up what they expect in a potential long-term mate, and what men consider the deal-breakers and mistakes women constantly make.

The DVD is available everywhere, or order from Amazon. It's all here, and Patti will motivate and guide you each step in the way in your own personal proven and easy-to-follow 12-Month Action Plan For Finding Love. Visit www.lionsgatedvd.com for details.

Have You Ever Wanted To Re-Write Your Life?
The Good News Is, You Can
— Starting Today.

How close is your life today to what you planned? If you're like most of us, there are areas, sometimes large areas, that are falling short of goals you set for yourself.

You know, goals are tricky things. You can achieve goals without even realizing it. Because there are goals we consciously set, and purpose ourselves toward — and then there are the ones we set subconsciously.

You Got Ambushed in Life

You don't realize it, but many of your life goals were actually set back in your childhood. They were written into your "life script" by parents, teachers, church, neighbors, even other children on the playground.

Other goals you set as an clueless child yourself, trying to make sense of the world and your place in it. The core story of your life was in place by age 7, although now it has long passed out of your awareness. Except maybe as uncomfortable replays at family reunions, where many old childhood emotions often resurface.

A life script is the plan on which you have unconsciously based your life. If you were hurt, maybe you decided to get even. Maybe you decided to make others feel bad when you die. Maybe you were denied affection or recognition, or repeatedly made to believe you fell short and would have to "do better" to succeed in life. So now your subconscious goal is to show everyone up and put them in their place. But trying to do that is killing you, emotionally or physically.

You were taught not only what to do, but also what to see, hear, touch and think, and programmed as a child with a life plan largely formulated by your parents: telling you how to carry on your life, and how you will play the game as a winner, a non-winner, or a loser.

Script analysis is a psychological method of uncovering these early decisions, made unconsciously, and how your life plan evolved and you became the person you are today. It's based on the idea that a person's behavior is partly programmed by experiences in chlldhood. And, because they are learned behaviors, on the idea that these life scripts can changed to improve our lives.

Do you want to re-write your life script into a winner's script?

As one of the nation's leading schools teaching Transactional Analysis, the WANT Institute is now offering special sessions in which our Year 3 And Beyond graduates, Certified TA Practitioners, will conduct Life Script Readings for clients, under the supervision of an LMFT. Through a simple question-and-answer set, these one- and two-hour sessions will provide you with a thorough analysis of how your individual personality, goal set and life purpose were shaped by your early childhood experiences. We will also be offering a special bonus analysis on "What Kind of Brain Do You Have?" based on famed psychologist Daniel Amen's groundbreaking research into brain types.

For more information about how Uncovering Your Life Script can help you get a brand-new handle on overcoming bad habits, creating new mind-sets and achieving your goals:

Contact Jim Hallowes at the WANT Institute, 310-390-4767
or by email: Jim@WANTInstitute.org

REMEMBER: It's YOUR life, and you can re-write it starting today.

See What Some of Dr. Pat Allen's Biggest Supporters Have To Say...

Pat's teachings about communication and relationships have struck a responsive chord throughout the nation and the world. Oprah Winfrey has invited her to guest four times, Rev. Michael Beckwith praises her work, and top-selling authors and performers such as John Gray, Marianne Williamson and Yakov Smirhoff along with Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger and thousands of others have learned from her advice and applied her principles and found it has led to great success and satisfaction in their lives. Bob Proctor even considers her another "Great Secret."

You can see some of their testimonials about Pat and her WANT Training system.

To make a therapy appointment with Dr. Pat Allen, call Sue at 949-723-0338 or 310-553-8248.

Are Many Women Ashamed To Look Attractive?

According to British Professor of Sociology Catherine Hakim, a lot of women feel ambivalent or even embarassed to consider trading on their looks. But why? Most men have absolutely no reluctance to bring all of their assets to bear in the marketplace, of both economics and romance, and no embarassment whatsoever about reaping the benefits that their genes — or their cosmetic surgeons — have graced them.

In her forthcoming book, Erotic Capital: The Power of Attraction in the Boardroom and the Bedroom, Dr. Hakim endorses the role that natural discrimination plays for an intelligent and thinking person in society, and stresses that being attractive, well-dressed, well-groomed and well-presented with a good hairstyle and nice jewelry is all part and parcel of being a professional woman, the type of woman who deliberately exploits all of her assets, including intelligence, education, professional qualifications — and her erotic capital — and that women who invest in themselves in this way show a far greater return, both economically and in their social relationships.

It's certainly true in the entertainment and music industries, she observes.

In this Slate interview, Hakim defends her premises about why women should be willing to use their sex appeal to get ahead, and explains why she believes females should be more willing to exploit their erotic capital in their social interactions.

In short, another reason why it's important to keep the booty in shape.

When the Woman Is the Breadwinner

Prof. Andrea Doucet gives her assessment of some recent research into the social and emotional geography that occurs in the relationship between breadwinner mothers and caregiver fathers in "Why We Must Be Sensitive to Our Slower-Moving Husbands" in this HuffPost piece. She points out such studies are difficult to formulate accurately and the contributions of men to family and parenting were often underestimated, which can lead to stressful confrontations that strain the marital relationship. Remember, as Dr. Pat Allen often explains, highly driven women can successfully be the "yang" partner when married to more sanguine men who are primarily into their "yin" — provided they recognize and thoughtfully negotiate their respective roles.

“Women (yin-centered people) need to feel good to do good;
men (yang-centered people) need to do good to feel good.”

For more videos check out The Pat Answers channel on YouTube.

WANT^® Institute — "Educators of Effective Communication Strategies"
Pat Teaches WANT^® Training in Transactional Analysis and Evidence-Backed Cognitive Behavior Therapy

The WANT^® Institute founded by Dr. Pat Allen offers Certified Training Classes and Continuing Education Credits for Clinicians, Therapists, WANT^® Training Educators and anyone else committed to improving their communication skills and enhancing their relationships.

This is a powerful (and potent) education series about how to get your emotions and life goals in order, how to restore your relationships and create intimacy in your life. And remember, you don't have to be a coach or clinician to benefit from these life-changing lessons in how to communicate with authenticity and integrity. Enrollment is open and classes will be held in both Newport Beach and Los Angeles.

Training is offered on two levels, the Basic Course which explores Transactional Analysis for diagnosing problems in personal relationships, and Pat's therapeutical principles of Androgenous Semantic Realignment™ (ASR) which offer a proven method of remedying these problems and will certify you as an ASR Educator. The second-year Advanced Course goes even deeper into these techniques, and is suitable for health care professionals, coaches who wish to upgrade to career educators, and business professionals and entrepreneurs who can add this communication training to enhance their corporate management skills.

This year, Pat is joined by graduate student Catherine O'Brien, LMFT to teach a sophisticated educational journey at the cutting edge of Evidence-Backed Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Coaching, which incorporates Transactional Analysis and Dr. Pat Allen's unique and trademarked WANT^® Training therapies. And all classes qualify for Continuing Education credit. Topics we will explore in depth include many aspects of psychotherapy:

• How male and female energies intereact within the individual and in all varieties of sexual relationships
• How the opposite hemispheres of the brain respond in emotional experience, communication and interpersonal relationships
• Brain development through infancy and into adulthood, how disfunctions and aberrations get programmed into your life, and how to reverse the effects of negative programming
• The evolution of psychotherapy, from Freud and Jung through Eric Berne and into Pat's own WANT^® Therapy
• How to get in touch with your true sexuality and begin to function as a Real Man or Real Woman
• How to communicate with others in a respectful and cherishing manner while achieving one's own individuation and actualization
• How to overcome the limitations that have held you back, and achieve optimum health and success in your emotional and economic life

And even more exciting news, classes are now available on-line, with full-length video and reading handouts available for download. So even if you don't live in California, you now have no excuse not to sign up and benefit from Pat's years of experience as a therapist and teacher.

In addition, Catherine O'Brien as a representative for the Southern California region of the USATAA has arranged that all graduates of the Dr. Pat Allen WANT Institute can receive certification as a TA Practitioner by the USATAA, the oversight board for Transactinal Analysis. You are welcome to contact Dr. Pat Allen or Catherine O'Brien to learn more about how to take advantage of this wonderful opportunity, and what it will mean for your career. Catherine O'Brien's email is: catherine300@charter.net and her phone number is: (714) 404-9224.

The Institute is a California 501(c)(3) nonprofit educational organization. Classes are 3 hours one night per week, and run 33 non-consecutive weeks through the entire year, with monthly Practicums in which students demonstrate their proficiency. For more information about Pat's WANT^® Institute, visit WantInstitute.org or click on the button for an application.

Sample Excerpts of Dr. Pat Allen's Best-Selling Books

• Read excerpts from Getting to "I Do."
• Read excerpts from Staying Married & Loving It.
• Read excerpts from Conversational Rape.
• Read Dr. Pat Allen's essay on "Why Good Women Stay With Bad Men"
• Read Dr. Pat Allen's essay on "Relationships in the New Millennium"

Dr. Pat Allen's Recommended Reading List.... Resources to Enlighten Your Mind and Enrich Your Life

Pat often recommends books from which she has learned valuable information, and films that demonstrate the psychology she teaches. In her lectures, shows and therapy sessions she frequently cites scientific researchers and other relationship experts bearing out her communication theories, and as recommended further reading for clients. So when Pat suggests a book that treats a problem in your own particular relationships, here's the place to check it out. You can even order yourself copies direct from Amazon.com with one-click ordering. Think of this as your personal "Communication 101 Study Hall" for learning how to improve your relationships and enhance personal success in life....and come on in!

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